Giving in to the panic and holding on to your ex, desperately trying to find out what he is doing, will drive him away for good. Your ex is totally blanking you out, he isn’t posting any updates on his social media – or worse – you have been blocked from seeing them? Your fear that he is completely slipping away from you must not guide your actions now. This sense of loss and desperation to want to be heard can lead to actions you will regret later on. Compared to a breakup, being ignored by someone you were once close to is a slower and potentially prolonged path to heart break. A breakup brings immediate pain and the dreadful feeling of being rejected. Whether it is you who has decided to completely cut off any connection to your ex or your ex who is ignoring you on purpose, radio silence can be a painful experience to endure. While the no contact rule has you actively changing your needy and clingy behavior, so that your ex can learn to miss you again, radio silence is more drastic. Radio silence, meaning a period of time with a complete lack of communication, has a lot in common with the no contact rule. My team and I regularly help our coachees understand why they are being treated this way and help them endure the silent treatment, so that they have the best possible chance to eventually win back their ex. Radio silence can be one of the most painful experiences following the end of a relationship. The types of situations are too complex for “right and wrong.German relationship coach Emanuel Albert, known as Date Doctor Emanuel, helps you understand why being ignored hurts so much and how you can use radio silence to regain your ex’s respect.īefore the breakup you used to be in contact every single day but now you have absolutely no idea where your ex is, who he is spending time with, what he is doing and how he is feeling. Whatever choices you make, know there isn’t a wrong choice.
You are handling this in a very mature and caring way. You have the choice not to wait things out. That may result in ending your relationship but, sometimes, people who struggle with their mental health need a long time to themselves. If, at any point, the silence becomes too overwhelming, know that you can create a boundary too. That way you feel more confident to handle whatever comes your way. The best thing you can do is give him the space to heal and in the meantime take care of your own needs. Unfortunately, you can’t control either of those outcomes. I wish I could say how long your boyfriend will need time for himself or if this time apart will become permanent. Everyone could use some “me-time” regardless of their relationship status. When it’s all said and done, you won’t regret investing your energy into yourself.
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But you can choose how to spend this time. You don’t know how long your boyfriend will need space. Do whatever you loved doing but didn’t have time for because you were spending time with your boyfriend. Use this time apart from him to take care of your needs. Instead of investing energy into thinking about your boyfriend, invest it in yourself. You won’t find any answers by dwelling in these thoughts.
I’m sure you’re consumed with thoughts of your boyfriend what he’s currently doing and what going through his mind. But mental health issues affect everyone differently. It's healthy that he drew a boundary instead of cutting things off with you. Now, that’s not to say that I think your boyfriend is wrong for wanting space to manage his mental health. What’s a relationship without communication? While he says that it’s nothing personal against you, it's hard not to take his radio silence personally. You want to understand what’s going on inside your boyfriend’s head, but the silence does nothing to help that. You have very little information to go off.
It’s normal to feel nervous in this kind of situation. You must be experiencing a mixture of emotions-feeling bad that your boyfriend is struggling while also wanting to talk to him about what’s going on. I’m sorry that you’re going through this. Why am I still feeling nervous about this?" Signed, Anxiously Waiting He’s been having a really hard time mentally recently and told me multiple times that it has nothing to do with me. "My boyfriend asked me for space, and I haven’t heard from him in 2-ish weeks.
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